Do you understand how it starts?
Personally you understand what it is? Character assassination is within a group of people that gather with unknown facts. It could be one person so hurt, they need you to feel the pain that they are feeling..
Maybe you caused their pain, maybe you didn't , but they want you as low as they can get you. If they put you in the gutter, it makes them feel higher. Did you cause their pain? I did, but so many before me caused them pain and cautioned them to look out for me and I never had a chance. They used you to get what they need or want, if not, lets be malicious and trash the character of a good person. Lets tell everyone or anyone who is not interested about how I am hurting, totally devastated and can't move on another day. My life is over because of you, I was perfectly content and before you I was on my way to better and bigger things. I was including you, but I forget to tell you, forgot to ask you, its that imaginary conversation. You were there in my mind, I forgot to ask while you were awake or present. I just could not find the right time to ask, so I just assumed because you held my hand or hugged me that we were together. You spent time with me, you shared a meal, went out of way to pick me up. Maybe cause I asked you to, yes, but, you came, time spent meant you were mine, its a we thing. So when you walk away from me, I'm hurt, how can you walk away me. I'm the best thing that happened to you, you were interested in me, what happened. You're a horrible individual, the worst, I hate everything about you. You can't accept what has passed thru your hands and heart, wipe the tears from eyes. I hold you until you stop crying but I must go, I don't belong here with you. I don't see myself here with you, I saw myself walking with you briefly.
Something happened, do you remember? You stopped everyone that would stop and listen. You told them how I broke your heart and played you, total strangers, no one cared. Honestly, you aired the dirty laundry of you, not me, you embarrassed me, for knowing you. It wasnt' until weeks later when I found out I asked you about it, you confessed, yes. Apologetic, disheartened, dejected and discouraged you cried in my arms. How should I react to this, there's no fixing, no going back to being dragged through the mud. If you care for someone, respect, trust or integrity are key components to the relationship. Strength comes from the conversation being open and honest, not badgering and back handed. Never have an agenda, where is the question going, unfiltered.
Take me down in front of me, where I can see you. Talk to me to my face, not behind my back, I do the same for you.
When this person is hurt by someone and doesn't get their way or it doesn't go the path or the course they want. Talk the person down to size, talk them into your pain or get them into a angry mindset. We gossip to control the talk we want, we narrate the day, we orchestrate the hour, we use cheap talk to help heal our wounds. We are exposed to individuals like this everyday all day long. When exposed, we show friends, who we think that are honest, our faults. They take those faults and expose them, battering us more to bring us down.
No one does this on purpose, its pure hurt, plain hurt down to core of their heart. Without thinking, stop breathe, you cant undo the damage of losing the best people around you. Walk away, cry, time will heal you and someone else will walk into your life when you least expect it.
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